Comments on: vermont cat circus

By: Ready2Agitate

Ready2Agitate — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 06:52:20 +0000

Hell yeah we do, Kate!

By: Kate L

Kate L — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 23:34:43 +0000

Thanks, everyone! It’s nice to know someone takes me seriously!

By: Ginjoint

Ginjoint — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 13:53:06 +0000

Kate – I really wish I was there in Kansas with you. Your experience at the party is completely unnerving, and this asshole is up to no good. Please, please act on this, and as Renee said, keep us posted. We are here for you, always.

By: hairball_of_hope

hairball_of_hope — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 07:50:17 +0000

@R2A (#133)

Google site-specific search tips here, in post #38:

http://dykestowatchoutfor.com/alisonfail

By: hairball_of_hope

hairball_of_hope — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 07:45:43 +0000

@R2A, Kate L (#133)

The incident in question can be found in the following thread, starting at post #21:

http://dykestowatchoutfor.com/stonewall

By: Ready2Agitate

Ready2Agitate — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 06:31:48 +0000

Kate, this is not the first time this jerk has peered out from under his ugly baseball hat in some public place and said “hi,” thereby alarming you. He needs to be stopped. He is making you a nervous wreck and you deserve better!

I know there’s a way to Google the DTWOF blog for specific posts (Hairball – can you remind?). If you haven’t been keeping a written record of this jerk’s advances, you could locate your previous posts on the topic, note the date and time, and add those incidents to your record of unwanted contacts.

Kate – you don’t have to suffer in silence. Restraining orders often have the impact of getting a perp to move on.

You also don’t have to decide about the restraining order now. Talk first to the folks who know the law – the victim hotlines Renee linked – pour out all your stories, including those you’ve told here, and listen to their responses. Then you can decide on the next step.

Stay strong. (Women geologists naturally are!)

By: Renee S.

Renee S. — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 00:26:31 +0000

Kate,

You don’t have to prove it. You just have to document it, (dates and times as accurately as possible),report it, and get the PFS order. They are not difficult to obtain. You probably will have to appear before a judge. Make sure you tell the judge that this creep’s stalking behavior makes you feel fearful. Don’t forget to mention the episode in the campus building, no matter even if you think it could be unrelated to your case. Once the order is in place, then ANY contact that he initiates with you will result in his arrest. Period.
In your state, as well as mine, stalking is defined as 2 or more UNWANTED contacts! There are folks on those websites I posted who can offer you both the support and guidance necessary to get the PFS order rolling.

Please, please, call the victim hotlines, go to the websites I suggested, and MAKE THE CALLS!
To ignore this is not worth the risk. He also may be doing this to other women as well. Be safe. Take care. Make the calls. Keep us posted.

By: Kate L

Kate L — Sun, 03 Jan 2010 20:28:31 +0000

Thanks, everyone, for the concern you’ve shown for me. I’m in the process of checking out the links. Two incidents seem to be key to the law here in Kansas. I think that there may be at least two, but how to prove it? Here’s a sample of what I mean: Five days before I was assualted in 2005, I was at a wine and cheese party given by the perp’s mother (the last time I attended). I had to leave to go to a PFLAG meeting after just an hour, but I didn’t announce that until I got up to leave. By then, the perp had offered to get me the only drink I had while I was there – one glass of white wine. He had gone to the kitchen by himself, and brought it back to me. 20 minutes later, I’m at the PFLAG meeting when I couldn’t move, couldn’t speak and couldn’t keep my eyes open, but I could hear everything going on around me. Some people from the local PFLAG chapter had to drive me and my car home. I don’t remember anything afetr that, except waking up the next morning with no hangover. If I had stayed at the wine and cheese party, the perp would have been the likely one to drive me home. Needless to say, I don’t attend those wine and cheese parties, anymore. Also, to follow up on a comment by Calico, that same thought has occurred to me. Two weeks ago, I was in my campus building at night when I found that the first floor lights had been turned off. I turned them on, got what I needed out of the dept. office, and walked back up the long. open stairway back to my office on the second floor. A short time later, I had to go down to the first floor again. The lights were back off. I had thought that I was alone on the building, but since the light switch is the regular type that might be found in a private homw, it had to have been flipped off by a person. But how to prove anything?

By: Calico

Calico — Sun, 03 Jan 2010 16:29:07 +0000

Reading all this, I seem to recall that Kate thought there may have been an unauthorized person in her office building after hours (this was several months ago?).

I don’t want to push any uneccessary buttons or be an asshole, but it’s just something I recall.

Get the PO.

By: Ready2Agitate

Ready2Agitate — Sun, 03 Jan 2010 05:08:32 +0000

Aw shucks I came here to announce today’s Palindromic Day and, natch, y’all’s already been there.
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Kate – ugh – I feel for you. Stalkers thrive on fear and silence. I know you’re active in the women’s center on campus and its Take Back the Night activities. Are there peers in that group who can support you? The guy’s a creep who enjoys menacing you. I’m with Renee: call him out!
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Thinking of the one year anniversary of Israel’s brutal attack on Gaza. Many well-documented analyses have emerged – esp from Amnesty International – but alas, not much has changed, and the people are still living in a kind of Gitmo prison in Gaza.
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To peace and justice, women and our kinfolk (including all you guys out there), wimmin, womyn, queers, dykes to watch out for, the smart folk of this blog, good food, music, literature, and kitties in 2010.

Happy New Year, y’all!